The Groom Guide

 

image from Bride.net

So here you are, ready to make that next step, to move your relationship to the next level.  Congratulations!  You found that perfect someone to spend the rest of your life with.  So, now what do you do?

This month’s series of blog will be about the you, the groom, nothing more and nothing less.  This will guide and teach you on some of the basic fundamentals of what to do and what not to do, from the time that you ask her the “question” all the way to the day of the wedding.

Yes, you have to be involved in your wedding planning.  Here’s 10 reason why based on Shelly Hagen’s book titled” The Everything Groom Book, A Survival Guide for Men!”

1) Do you really want to eat nouvvelle cuisine at your wedding reception?

2) Your girlfriend is planning a fairy- tale- princess themed wedding…  and you’re the Prince Charming (tights and all).

3) You’ll appreciate everything your fiance is going through if you experience some of it first hand.

4) Your title in your fraternity was “Party-Planning Animal”.  Share the wealth, man.

5) You don’t have to shop for a dress; callling a caterer or two is easy in comparison.

6) Score huge points with the bride just for being interested.

7) You can honestly take credit for a great ceremony and reception.

eight) Eliminate the posibility of your girlfriend hiring the “Most Sensitive Band in Town”.

9) Is it really fair for your bride to be taking on all of the work?

10) It’s fun!  (No really, it is.)

From here on, you’ll learn about picking the “rock”, picking your supporters, the “stag” party, and the “Big Day”.

affectionately…                                                                          -jo ann-                                                                                   480-216-4630                                                               Apropos Creations, LLC

Hump Day Hot Tip! to pee or not to pee, that is the question…

I found this on Project Wedding and would like to share it with all of you.

Peeing While Wearing the Dress

So you’ll have one less thing to worry about on your wedding day (community article)

Because this seems to be a topic that has several people hitting the panic button, here is how to pee while wearing your wedding dress:

On arrival at your venue

  • Open the door of the ladies’ room and look in. If the floor is not clean, call the venue staff and ask to have it cleaned.
  • If the floor is clean, walk into the ladies’ room and open the door of the handicapped stall. If the floor of the handicapped stall is not clean, call the venue staff and ask to have it cleaned.

This ensures that you will not later get the train/back of the dress dirty just by having it touch the floor.

When you need to go

  • Walk into the handicapped stall. Remove (don’t just pull down) your underpants.
  • Facing the toilet, pull up the front of your dress to your waist.
  • Walk straight forward, so you are straddling the toilet, and sit down that way. The train/back of your dress will now be away from the toilet, so you won’t get them wet or dirty.
  • Lean forward before peeing. That way, even if you drop the front of the dress onto the seat, you will not pee in its direction.

You may now resume your panic about all the other topics for your wedding day.

I hope that you have found this helpful for your special day…

affectionately…                                                                          -jo ann-                                                                                   480-216-4630                                                               Apropos Creations, LLC

DIY – Heart Wrapped Chocolate

Happy Monday everyone…

There will not be a VLOG today and I apologize for that.  I am not quite feeling 100% but I will still be bringing to you a DIY project.

This month’s final blog on DIY is going to be bittersweet.  I say bittersweet because I will be using Ghirardelli’s dark chocolate.  :)…

Materials Needed:

Ghirardelli chocolate or any square shaped chocolate; scrapbook paper to match the color and theme of your event; paper cutter; self healing mat; Exacto knife; tape; white scrap paper.

On Martha Stewart Weddings‘ website, you will find the template to make things easier.  After printing, just cut it all with your cutter to make sure that it’s all straight and of course just on the solid lines.  Now, just fold on the dotted lines.  What have helped me is to tape the chocolate together so when you wrap the scrapbook paper on to the chocolate, it doesn’t slip on it each other.  Another advice is to put a piece of paper on the part of the heart that opens up so it doesn’t show the chocolate.

Enjoy and have a great week!

affectionately…                                                                          -jo ann-                                                                                   480-216-4630                                                               Apropos Creations, LLC

Friday “Luv” Superstition…

Did you know that a final look in the mirror before the bride leaves her home for the ceremony will bring good luck?

Now there is one to offset the above…

If the bride goes back into the home after leaving and looks at the mirror again, it is considered bad luck.

Does looking into your pocket mirror will be considered bad luck? Makes you wonder doesn’t it?  Hhhmmmmm…

-jo ann-

Jo Ann M. Grant

Apropos Creations, LLC

480-216-4630

joann@aproposcreations.com

www.aproposcreations.com

Hump Day Hot Tip! Vendor Tipping…

I read this article from the FrugalBride.com.  Frugal Bride.com has done a great job writing it that I had to share it to all my readers.

Tipping the Vendors

by: FrugalBride.com

I’ll bet I know exactly what’s going through your mind right this very instant. TIPPING, WHAT ARE YOU CRAZY!?! Yes, we know, you’ve already paid an absolute fortune for those vendors and now you have to shell out some more. Sorry.

Here are the general rules for tipping. Although it is generally thought to be a voluntary thing (I’d like to know who said that), there are still areas of your wedding that require tipping, but you can still use your discretion. Firstly, you may want to find out from your vendors if tipping is allowed. There are several vendors, caterers for example, that include the wages of their staff in their price. They sometimes discourage tipping. (Bet you hope to hear that a lot!) And some vendors will add gratuities to their bills. Be sure not to double tip.

If you are using a wedding coordinator, they should be responsible for delivering the tips and payments to the related vendors. If not, then it should be your best man. If you don’t feel comfortable asking the best man, ask one of the fathers. All tips should be calculated and prepared in separate envelopes ahead of time, thereby making it much easier for the individual responsible to deliver the tips.

FB TIPS ON TIPPING:

  • All tips should be given in cash. If the person serving you is an employee of the company, their tip should be in a separate envelope.
  • No one/single person should get more then $150.00. For example: Let’s say your limo bus is $2000.00. 10 or 15% of that total is 200 or 300 dollars, not necessary.
  • Tips should be given just before your vendor leaves. That way you can judge how much to give, according to the job they did for you.
  • All vendors would love a thank you card. It is a great reminder of happy clients and let’s face it, it’ll help them book future clients.
  • Giving vendors a favour/bomboniere is totally up to the couple and how many they can spare.

THE ONES YOU SHOULD TIP

Altar boys or girls – $10-15.00 each

Limousine Drivers – 10-15% of the limousine bill, given at the end of the evening. See “FB Tip” above.

Valet Parking Attendants – $.50 to $1.00 per car, prearrange this amount with the supervisor based on an estimate of how many cars will be arriving and a sign should be posted to guests that the gratuity has been taken care of.

Wait staff – If the tip is not on the contract already, 15% of the total catering bill is tipped. Wait staff do the hardest physical labour on your wedding day.

Bartenders – 10% of the total liquor bill, presented to the head bartender or divided equally among the total number of bartenders who worked the full evening. Make sure that a tip hasn’t been added to your contract already.

Restroom and/or Coatroom Attendants – $.50 to $1.00 per guest, prearranged again based on the number of guests.

Makeup artist or Hair Stylists – You don’t have to tip them if they come to you. If you go to the salon, then you should tip them 15%. Why you ask, well the salon makes the money, not the individual. If you have received a good job, and you would tip normally, then go ahead.

DJ – If your DJ owns the company then the tip is optional but if the DJ is an employee $50-100.00. If you have 2 DJs (DJ & MC), give each person $50.00 in separate envelopes. When your guests rave about your reception later, it’s the DJ that had everything to do with the fun.

OPTIONAL TIPPING (amounts reflect optional tips)

Business Owners – You don’t have to tip the owner of a business, unless you feel that they have gone beyond the call of duty and you want to give them a token of your appreciation.

Ceremony or Reception Musicians – $5-10/hr per person, in one lump sum given to the person in charge.

Banquet or catering manager – doesn’t need to be tipped unless they’ve thrown in extras or saved you a few hundred dollars on your bill. The tip would be between $50-$100.

Photographer and Videographer – If these vendors own the company, then the tip is optional. If they are employees $50.00 goes to the main photographer and he/she can give a split to the assistant.

Officiant – To tip them is to trivialize their profession and extremely bad etiquette. Generally you pay your fee and that’s it. If you wish to make a financial contribution to the church, you can do that separately.

Florist – You don’t need to tip the florist for making your arrangements but you can tip them an extra $5.00 per delivery location (3 locations=$15.00) or $10-20.00 per staff member in one lump sum, for set-up and delivery.

Wedding Cake Baker – You don’t have to tip for the baking of the cake but if you are at your reception venue at time of delivery and set-up = $10.00

Wedding Coordinator or Room Manager– This is the person managing the reception venues staff and facility the night of your wedding = $50.00

Your Wedding Coordinator – If this vendor owns the company, then the tip is optional. If they are an employee = $50.00

Your Wedding Planner – This person has planned your wedding from start to finish. An appropriate tip would be 10% of their total commission or bill.

This should give you some guidelines on tipping etiquette. Tipping etiquette is different in different provinces, cities and towns. Please be sure to add this to your budget. The amounts above are only examples and are not written in stone.

FrugalBride.com is proud to bring you a large selection of vendors from across Canada. Under each province you will find extensive listings of vendors to help plan your wedding.”

Thank you for reading and have a great “Hump Day”!

affectionately…

-jo ann-

Jo Ann M. Grant

Apropos Creations, LLC

480-216-4630

joann@aproposcreations.com

www.aproposcreations.com

DIY- Table Centerpiece

One thing to consider about creating your own centerpiece is the time spent on making it.

If you have the time and the resource, that’s great.  If not, then I highly recommend that you find a trusted florist that can create your centerpieces.

Materials needed:

2 vases of different sizes (1 to fit inside of the other); your choice of flower (in this case, I chose a spider mum);  black filler rocks; sliced limes; & glass marbles.

Direction:

Sit back, relax & watch the video.

Thank you for viewing…

Jo Ann M. Grant                                                                           Apropos Creations, LLC                                           480.216.4630                                     www.aproposcreations.com

Hump Day Hot Tip! – Pre-Wedding Party Guest List

Here’s a question that may have crossed your mind:

Is it okay to invite a co-worker or a friend to a pre- wedding party like the bachelor/ bachelorette party but yet they are not invited to the wedding itself?

The answer is no, it is not okay.  But of course there is always an exception to the rule.   If you have a relationship with them and have communicated to your co-worker and friends why they are not going to be invited to the wedding, then there is just one thing left to do, enjoy your party with the everyone you want to invite!!!

DIY – Homemade Bath Salt

This weekend’s DIY project is going to be “homemade bath salt”.

Materials:

1 cup Epsom salt; 2- 3 tbsp baking soda; 1- 2 tblsp glycerin; food coloring; essential oil of your choice; glass jar (from Michael’s or your preferred craft store); ribbon.

Now, enjoy the show!

You can do whatever you please with this “homemade bath salt”.  You can give this away as Christmas gifts and it definitely can be a party favor.   Just have all your materials all matched up with your color scheme and your are good to go!

Hump Day Hot Tip! Bridesmaids’ Gifts…

I was talking to one of my friends just recently and she mentioned that she was just a bridesmaid a few weeks back. Being involved in so many weddings, I asked her, so what pretty gift did the bride give you? To my dismay, the bride did not give her or any of the other maids’ gifts.

I firmly believe that a bride should give a token of appreciation to her maids because they have done so much to accommodate the bride. Anywhere from $25.00 to $75.00 amount to show gratitude is definitely acceptable. Remember, these are your good friends and that you should never ever take them for granted.